During my first pregnancy, I didn’t have a proper “confinement” because I:
i) Washed my hair and took a bath
I washed my hair and took a bath 4 days after delivery. I also didn’t wear long-sleeved pyjamas but t-shirts and shorts 😛
ii) Lochia (post-partum bleeding) for nearly 20 days (!!!)
I was drinking DOM every night.
iii) Post-partum traditional massage.
My elder sister had recommended me this but somehow, the days became so busy with the baby, breastfeeding and fighting with the CL and my Mom…
iv) I didn’t get enough rest…
The previous confinement lady was toxic because:
– She loved to stand near the door as I breastfeed to tell me how other women had loads and loads of milk. Looking at me, she said I didn’t have much and might as well just switch to formula milk,
– She hated having to bring the baby over every 3 hours for me to breastfeed (she’d volunteered since she wanted to fulfill her duties). The boy ended up co-sleeping with me.
v) I didn’t drink enough water.
Since I was breastfeeding and the Chinese confinement food and drinks prepared are usually warming foods, that causes you to sweat, I think I was losing too much fluids with low water intake.
If you’re a breastfeeding Mom, you need A LOT of broths and warm drinks, esp the red date and ginger ones 😀
I ran a fever 3 times yet the CL and my mother REFUSED to cut down on the warming foods until my father put his foot down – we had to consult a Chinese physician, who thankfully told them to stop it. Turns out that the CL had put handfuls of dong guai root into all my beverages and soup. (she wanted to finish up the stock, which my elder sister had “encouraged” me to buy.”
vi) I have “windy” feet
My feet aches each time I sit under a ceiling fan or a breezy area. I also can’t stand cool temperatures when I was OK previously. Rheumatism (fong sap)?
For this second pregnancy, I really *HOPE* to have a better confinement I will be dealing with TWO old Chinese ladies.
My late father is not around and Hubby can only stay for 1-2 weeks 🙁
1. I’ve already engaged a daytime confinement lady
She will go to the market before coming to our home to prepare my breakfast, lunch, dinner and the nutritious supper. She said that she’ll leave after she prepares the supper in the slow cooker for me.
– Should I set clear arrival and departure times?
– How should I deal out the cash for shopping?
2. Chinese confinement foods
In terms of food, I’ve only bought the dried longan, Benedictine DOM, (Hubby has even set aside a bottle of Remy Martin brandy for me) and MIL sent me some herbs (steamed with chicken for confinement).
– Got my mother lode of ginger-based food and drinks 🙂
3. Confinement clothes
Previously, I wore tank tops and shorts to sleep but now, I’ve bought comfy cotton or “silky” long-sleeved pajamas.
Got cute socks to keep my feet warm too!
4. Bath materials
I still have leftovers of the Amway Post-Natal Herbal bath I bought previously.
5. Massage oil – Dr. Hauschka Birch Arnica Body Oil
If you have not tried this Dr. Hauschka’s Birch Arnica Energizing Body Oil, you must!
6. Sit on a donut ring 🙂
If you’ve had a natural delivery, then your anal region will be *a bit* sore and sensitive for a couple of weeks.
New moms (and also those with hemorrhoids) will appreciate this Donut Seat Memory Foam Cushion Pillow ($19.99) that my late fourth aunt had used during her delivery.
Since this a daytime CL, I hope that I’ll be able to cope with the preschooler and the baby at night.
The preschooler falls asleep at 10 -11 pm despite my bringing him into the room at 9.30 pm. He’ll roll about the bed, talk FOREVER or dive around until I yell at him!
I’d love to hear from the Moms-of-two (or three!) on how you all survived the confinement. Please, please share!!!